My Teen is Pregnant
Finding out that your daughter is pregnant
or that your son has gotten a girl pregnant is probably a huge shock.
But, you are not alone. Over one million teenage girls and boys
in America say these words to their parents each year.
Many parents react emotionally, leaving
their teen feeling alone and without support. It is normal for you
to be shocked and upset. Many feel a sense of grief wondering what
this means for the future of their child. Still others experience
guilt as if their teen's pregnancy represents a failure in their
own parenting. Regardless of your emotions, it is important for
you to realize that your teen needs you now more than ever.
Your response and reaction will influence
how your child handles the situation. The most important thing is
to stay calm. Your daughter has told you that she is pregnant because
she needs your love, support and guidance. Just think how hard it
was for her to tell you. Recognize that your teen is likely to be
frightened and confused and looking to you for help.
As hard as
it may be, seek to give your daughter your honest advice and your
unconditional love. If she feels respected and supported, she will
be more receptive to your advice and information.
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- Listen as she shares her thoughts and concerns.
- Don't accuse your teen of being stupid or promiscuous---it will
only cause anger and resentment.
- Involve other family members, if possible.
- Let your teen know how disappointed you are. They need to know
you care enough to be upset.
- It is okay to cry. Take time out for yourself.
- Her dreams may not be your dreams. You may be disappointed in
the pregnancy, but try not to project it on your daughter.
- Encourage her to stay in school.
- Love and support your child.
- Encourage her to get counseling and seek pregnancy related education.
You and your daughter do not have to go through this alone. We
can provide free and confidential support for both of you including
counseling, material support, and other help you may need.
click here to find a counselor and services near you.